Heal From the Root.
Love Without Limits.
Trauma-Informed Therapy for Individuals & Couples
Break free from patterns of pain that hold you back. Feel safe in your body, secure in your relationships, and alive in your own skin again.
Eva Fernandez, LMFT — Complex Trauma Healing Specialist
Hi, I’m Eva.
I help individuals and couples with complex PTSD and childhood trauma heal through my Whole-System Healing approach
If you’re here, it’s likely because you’re tired of repeating the same painful patterns in your life and relationships — patterns that trace back to childhood wounds or unresolved trauma that never fully healed.
The arguments may look different each time, but they leave you in the same place: hurt, misunderstood, and wondering if things will ever change.
Maybe you’ve tried to fix it — worked on it alone, swept things under the rug, even gone to counseling — but the changes never stick. You understand your patterns intellectually, but when you’re triggered, all that insight vanishes and you’re right back where you started.
You’re ready for something different.
Let me guess what might be happening…
When the Past Still Lives in the Present
If you’ve lived through complex trauma (cPTSD)— especially in childhood — the past doesn’t just stay in the past. It shows up in the present as:
- Emotional triggers that seem to come out of nowhere
- Trust issues that sabotage even your closest relationships
- Patterns of disconnection that keep intimacy out of reach
- Nervous system reactions that feel bigger than the situation calls for
These aren’t “bad habits” you can simply think your way out of. They’re survival patterns written into your nervous system. A certain tone of voice, a look, even someone’s posture can trigger a protective response before your conscious mind even realizes what’s happening.
This might look like:
In those moments, your mind may want closeness, but your body moves toward protection. You might find yourself
- Small disagreements blowing up into relationship-threatening fights
- Shutting down or pulling away when you most need connection
- Reaching for reassurance but somehow pushing your partner away
- Misinterpreting neutral expressions as criticism or rejection
- Replaying conversations for hours, searching for what you “should” have said
- Holding back your true feelings to avoid another conflict
- Feeling alone even when you’re with people who love you
If this sounds like you, you’re not broken — you just haven’t had the right kind of support yet.
RESPOND
DON’T REACT
Why My Approach Works (When Others Haven’t)
Here’s what typically happens with traditional therapy approaches:
- Talk Therapy: You understand your patterns intellectually and gain valuable insights, but still get triggered just as intensely.
- Somatic/Body Work: You feel calmer and more regulated in your body, but the same destructive thought patterns keep spiraling.
- Skills-Based Therapy (CBT/DBT): You learn helpful tools that work great… until you’re activated, then they completely vanish when you need them most.
That’s because complex PTSD affects ALL THREE systems — your emotions, your nervous system, AND your thought patterns. Healing one without addressing the others is like trying to drive a car with only one working cylinder.
Here’s the truth: When you’re dealing with complex PTSD, childhood trauma, or chronic trauma, you need Whole-System Healing that addresses your mind, emotions, and body together – because healing complex trauma requires addressing where it actually lives: everywhere
How I Work Differently (And Why It Matters)
My Whole-System Healing Approach
I don’t just focus on one piece of the puzzle. We work on every layer — body, emotions, and thoughts — at the same time.
Here’s what we do instead:
In our sessions, we:
- Calm your nervous system using somatic and polyvagal techniques so you can stay present even when triggered
- Process emotions through trauma-informed EFT and attachment healing so feelings become information, not overwhelming floods
- Rewire thought patterns with cognitive work that actually sticks because your body and emotions are regulated enough to integrate new learning
This means:
When challenging situations arise in your daily life, you respond with clarity and connection instead of getting hijacked by old survival patterns.
The difference? Other approaches focus primarily on one system — either emotions (EFT), thoughts (CBT), or the body (somatic work). My Whole-System Healing approach addresses your mind, emotions, and body together, because healing complex trauma requires addressing where it actually lives: everywhere.
From Conflict and Distance to Connection and Trust
When we work together, it’s not just talk — it’s practice. We work through your real-life patterns in session so that when challenges appear at home, at work, or in relationships, you respond with the person you actually want to be.
This is how couples move from conflict and distance to connection and trust — creating a secure bond where you feel seen, supported, and truly on the same team.
This means you can
For Individuals
Feel safe and grounded in your own body, even during stress
- Recognize triggers before they hijack your day
- Stay present in difficult conversations instead of shutting down
- Trust your own feelings and communicate them clearly
- Build genuine intimacy without fear of being hurt or abandoned
- Set healthy boundaries without guilt or anxiety
- Live fully instead of just surviving day to day
For Couples
Spot and stop negative cycles before they spiral into disconnection.
- Repair quickly and reconnect after conflict
- Feel emotionally safe with each other, even during disagreements
- Share vulnerability without fear of judgment or rejection
- Build unshakeable trust and a sense of “we’re in this together”
- Experience love and intimacy without the fear of being triggered or triggering your partner
I Meet You Where You Are
Because Every Path is Different
Ways We Can Work Together
Whether you’re looking to heal on your own, strengthen your relationship, or connect with others on a similar path, I offer therapy and coaching options designed to meet you where you are. Each service blends trauma-informed care with practical tools — so you can create lasting change in a way that feels safe, supported, and sustainable.
EFT Couple Therapy
Trauma-informed couples therapy for partners affected by complex trauma. Learn to communicate clearly, resolve conflicts without emotional flooding, and create a secure, loving bond where both people feel safe to be vulnerable.
Individual DBT + Trauma Therapy
Heal deeply. Feel safe in your own skin. Live fully. 1:1 trauma-informed therapy to help you calm your nervous system, release old patterns, and create a life that feels grounded and whole.
Trauma Coaching
Action-focused coaching for CPTSD survivors ready to build resilience, strengthen relationships, and move toward the future they want — without being held back by the past.
Build & Bloom Relationship Group Therapy
Heal together. Grow together. Trauma-informed family therapy to improve communication, repair trust, and break unhelpful patterns — so your home feels more connected, respectful, and supportive
Taking The First Step
Three Simple Steps to Begin Your Healing
STEP 1
Connect
Schedule a free consultation call via my online calendar or give me a call at 516.900.3072. This is where we begin — just two people talking about what’s been going on and what you want to change.
STEP 2
Explore
We’ll talk through the trauma patterns that keep showing up and how they’re affecting your relationships, work, and daily life.
STEP 3
Collaborate
In your first session, we’ll start using proven, evidence-based strategies to calm your nervous system, shift deep-rooted patterns, and strengthen your relationships.
Now also serving clients in the Netherlands (Amsterdam & nationwide) online
For many expats, the stress of adjusting to a new country can magnify old wounds and create new strains in love and life. Long waitlists and language barriers can make finding the right therapist feel impossible – especially one who understands complex trauma.
That’s why I now offer specialized trauma therapy for English-speaking clients in the Netherlands — so you don’t have to navigate these challenges alone.
[Learn More About Therapy for Clients in the Netherlands →]
